Feelings of Worthlessness and Hopelessness and Ways to Deal with Them
What are the Feelings of Worthlessness?
Things with less or no worth are often neglected. We always judge something by its utility or value and so is the self-worth. Unconditional love in a relationship begins with a strong self-esteem in oneself. Thus, people with less self-esteem often never get in contact with unconditional loving relationships.
People who are the victims of depression are the frequent sufferers of worthlessness although most human beings feel the sense of worthlessness once in a while in their life. According to the normal psychology, people feel less self-worth or worthless due to various reasons one of which includes one's reaction to a specific situation or a person's attitude towards us. This feeling also gives rise to impractical thoughts full of negativity or regret from past failures.
People who are the prey of such feelings often hold themselves or their certain deficiencies responsible for any kind of wrongs in the incidents of daily life. They also sometimes get overstressed by holding themselves responsible for miss-happenings in other's life as well. Examples for such instances include blaming oneself for getting ill, failing to meet certain serious duties throughout their lifetime, few people in real estate businesses are observed with symptoms of worthlessness, even at the time when the real estate businesses have a collapsing stage in the market.
Feelings of worthlessness can be concealed in the back of one's mind and they will find an effective way to cut down the positivity that is essential for day to day activities. In some cases persons with such self-worthlessness can lead themselves to mental disorders and can start blaming oneself for the state of poverty around the world.
How to Deal With Feelings of Worthlessness?
- Always have a positive conversation in your mind; this will help in overcoming the feelings of worthlessness. Stop repeating negative monologues such as "I can't" or "I suck" constantly in your mind in lousy situations. As this inner voice acts as an evil and can fill your mind with lots of insults just one after the other. It can also make you firmly believe that you are guilty and responsible for all the bad things that happen around you. Thus, as soon as negative thoughts start to pre-occupy your mind make your own positive tag line by saying, "I am confident, strong and will never ever give up by hook or by crook". These positive monologues if once become your mantra can acts as a barrier to the negative thoughts.
- Setting up short term and long term goals will help in dealing with worthlessness. If you achieve a short term goal, you will immediately feel good and worth full. The goals must be of two types: long term and short term goals. Short term goals must include those objectives with the help of which one can attain immediate self-worth, you can start things like getting rid of old stuff from your wardrobe or planning a pocket friendly budget by balancing your banking account. These short term activities will also eventually help you in achieving your long term goals.
- Focusing on your present situations and taking pleasure out of it every moment will help in overcoming worthlessness. Put a pause on your anxiety about the past and future planning. Usually, our yesterday create hazards and future makes us worried which devoid us of the present happiness. Engross in the ongoing events of your life and see the serenity it brings in your life.
- Ignoring the life-sucking people around you (in other words the persons who turn your life into hell) will help in dealing with feelings of worthlessness. The closer you are in touch with those people, the more they make you worthless. Getting surrounded with this kind of people will always make you feel sick. Maintain as much distance as possible and live life to the fullest as it is short. Life is too short for petty things.
- "Comparison is the thief of joy" - Theodore Roosevelt. A good way to deal with feelings of worthlessness is to stop comparing yourself with others. Don't feel worthless by seeing what others have. Always feel blessed and happy of the things belong to you. It may be that you are much blessed and fortunate than them whom you think to be the happiest. Or you can try the alternate way of achieving it by setting specific goals.
- Go for a morning or an evening walk, plan family outing once in a week, opt for a meditation session at least once in a day and see how it leads you to a life free of depression and worthlessness. Experts also sometimes suggests to brush your teeth and to wash face to overcome bad feelings. The aim here is to do some simple things which will refresh you and revitalize your body.
What are the Feelings of Hopelessness?
Scientists, after long years of studies have found that a common cause of suicide in ancient Rome and Greece is the hopelessness that gives rise when people are in a trap of impossible situations.
As per the study conducted by experts, hopelessness is of nine types and each of them is interconnected with the three elements: mastery, attachment and survival. Hopelessness grows when one of these three elements comes under threat. Hopelessness is categorized as one of the disparaging emotion that can have a significant effect on your happiness. This must be taken care of and one who fails to do so become the victim of depression, which has a negative effect in the long run.
Types of Hopelessness and Ways To Deal With Feelings of Hopelessness
Hopelessness Type #1: Feelings of Rejection, Forsaken or Abandonment
Forsaken is the feeling due to which the sense of feelings like attachment and survival are under threat. A person when feel ignored, isolated and lonely are said to be forsaken. They usually judge matters in a partial way. For example: If they are being avoided by one person they feel that everyone else is also ignoring them. To overcome the feeling of forsakenness and abandoned stop looking upon your life's experience partially. This type of hopelessness can be overcome if one can open himself/herself to diversified possibilities and opportunities by forgetting the past.
Hopelessness Type #2: Feeling Alone or Unattended
In this type of situation, people generally feel alienated. In other words they feel that they are not worthy of anybody's love and affection. This feeling is sometimes very fatal as it can devoid a person from recognizing his/her positive side. Thus, negative experiences if the past can make you alienated very often. To counter this feeling of hopelessness, one has to take shelter of positivity and must not try to read others mind. Reading others mind can also acts as a catalyst to grow this feeling.
Hopelessness Type #3: Being Uninspired or Dull
Financial barrier to meet your aim, lacking of suitable growing environment since childhood, improper education, career failures and facing obstacles in every now and then of your life can let you feel uninspired. Getting de-motivated by the obstacles in your way is very easy. In that case of hopelessness, optimism is the main weapon. Always be an optimist and look at life in different perception. If there is no one around you to inspire you take help of books written by motivational speakers and you can also motivate yourself by looking forward to your dreams and aims. Start believing in the fact that you have almost fulfilled your dreams. This good feeling will definitely motivate you and will increase your hope.
Hopelessness Type #4: Powerlessness or Feeling Vulnerable
People who do not have any control in their life or people who do not have any decision making powers commonly encounter feelings of hopelessness. Psychologists believe that the three feelings that give rise to powerlessness are: labeling, ignoring the positive and personalization discounting. People who normally do not count their achievements and start feeling "worthless" always overlook their talents and potentials. Try to regain hope by doing something new and creative in your life. Make a list of all your achievement no matter how tiny is it and stop thinking about the bad phase of life you undergo. After all everyone is born with some talent and everyone is unique in their own way.
Hopelessness Type #5: Being in a Challenging Social Situations
Distressed people frequently employ personalization and blame themselves for any defective situations. They feel that they are sign of misfortune and they cannot move on. In spite of hopelessness, this type of feeling can be put to an end by assessing the possible cause of emotional negative feelings and finding a corresponding solution to it.
Hopelessness Type #6: Self-Deficiency
This type of hopelessness is often seen in people who are lacking in financial aspects or if they are physically disabled. They generally think that due their inabilities they cannot keep pace with the advancement in society. They think nothing in world could cope up their inherent deficiencies. But it is totally a misconception as too much focusing on your limitations can devoid you of recognizing your hope and can have an adverse effect on your well-being. This type of hopelessness can be overcome by thinking that you are not less talented than others. It is true that you are different but you are both special and unique. Remember this and move on.
Hopelessness Type #7: Doom or Disaster
People who are diagnosed with diseases that are life-threatening often go in the phase of "Doom" as they are pre-occupied with the thoughts of losing their life. They often find themselves helpless, surrounded with dark shadows and hopelessness. 'Life is precious' and therefore expert advice is to focus on how to recover rather than thinking of death. Do not lose the hope of survival as doom can decrease the chances of your recovery and survival. Browse internets or go for counseling sessions, this will help you to get familiar with the therapy of fighting the disease and increase chances of recovery.
Hopelessness Type #8: Physical and Emotional Confinement
The term 'captive' defines the state of a person who is imprisoned. It also defines situations of a person when he/she gets involved in a bad relationship, depriving of freedom, dominated in every phase of life by someone, treating you as a slave and many more. Such situations are called 'emotional captivity'. It is said –"Manipulators come in all ages, shapes and sizes". There are lots of people around us who always try to suck your life by making it hell. It may include your spouse, boss, strangers and many others. You have to break free the bonding or ties and move on. Later on evaluate these emotions gradually and take them off your mind and then you will realize how correct you were.
Hopelessness Type #9: Learned Helplessness / Incompetence
Sometimes many harrowing experiences and incidents can lead to mental distress. The person undergoing such phases thinks that they are no longer live safely in the society. They also feel insecure and make each and every day painful thus becoming the victim of Learned Helplessness. Assessing the main reason is to counter the problem of 'learned helplessness'. So start gaining hope and inspirations by getting in touch with someone near you who belongs to much better situation as compared to yours.